When I was younger I used to wonder how do women find the time to do it all. Balancing life and work. Is this something you learn? Or does it come naturally?
I’m a developer and career coach by day and consultant by night.
I’m a mother to a 6 and 9 year old. Both have their own personalities and needs and they require a lot of time.
I’m a wife. In addition to taking care of my babies, I have to care for my big baby too. I swear his needs exceeds those of our little ones at times.
There are days I look at my calendar filled with gymnastics, soccer, karate, networking events, personal time, Girl Scouts, PTA and wonder how in the hell am I going to make this work.
Then like a plane on autopilot it just happens. It all miraculously comes together.
Now don’t get me wrong, with my ADD some stuff gets lost in translation but I manage. I amaze myself at all I can do without skipping a beat. And to be proud of it at the end of the day is the icing on the cake.
It’s as if being still is a violation to my mind.
If I listen to what the media tells me, I would surmise to believe I can’t be all of these things and be successful. I would have to let one area go lacking in order to get where I want to be in the industry.
Thd media outlets do a good job of telling what I can’t do and how I can’t do it but not a good job at answering the question ‘Why Can’t I’?
Why should I sacrifice some things in order for other things to thrive? I don’t have to. Why? Because I’m a woman. I can have and do it all.
You see as I evolved into being ‘this’ woman I realized that we were designed to be and do all things in one. Looking at the women around me showed me this.
I realized women came into this world as doctors, psychologists, counselors, ministers, teachers, caregivers, excellent orchestrators, artists and grand thinkers. We do this all in our day to day lives. We possess many skills and talents. Some we have yet to uncover.
Does this sound like you? You’re on an after hours conference call, cooking dinner, doctoring on a kid’s ‘boo-boo’ and checking homework all at the same time, aware of every event that is happening.
We as women naturally have super powers. With minimal thought we can find the good in the most difficult situation.
We have the ability to birth life. Have you ever felt life growing inside of you? Words cannot explain it. And dammit, any being that can do that deserves to be worshipped. And quite honestly, shouldn’t be afraid to have such expectation.
You see, we have a special connection to the universe. One that is unique to each of us. One that gives us the authority to walk with a special “umph” in our step.
You are not the weak woman the media portrays you to be. Especially my women in tech. You don’t have to accept that you’re being judged by your gender. You don’t have to accept that you will be paid less than your male counterpart. You don’t have to accept that its okay for a company to tell you they will pay for you to delay starting a family by freezing your eggs.
Women are the best. We’re not just good. We’re damn good at EVERYTHING we do. They downplay us because they fear our ability. There’s nothing more superior than a woman that knows and executes her value and worth. Don’t let them tell you otherwise.
Start viewing yourself with the abilities you possess. Not just as a person, but as a woman. Think back to all the women in your life who survived when the odds were against them. Think about how you have made things in your life and in your families life just happen. You have a natural gift.
Now go put on your heels, your favorite lipstick and walk with a pep in your step. Why? Because you are woman. You are creator. You are a conqueror. You are a warrior. You can have it all.
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